By now, many people know that on the weekends, I DJ weddings.  Over the years I've seen a lot.  So for everyone's sake I decided to put together my list of 10 Commandments for requesting songs at a wedding.

In my experience, requests at a wedding can be a good thing, or a very bad thing.  I always say, "I'll take all of the requests and I'll play the good ones."  You've seen unwritten rules for society that involve everything from how to drive to things you shouldn't do at restaurants.  They're lists that help you to not look ignorant in society.

This list applies to that.  Here are 10 Commandments or "Unwritten Rules" For Requesting Songs At A Wedding:

10 Commandments For Requesting Songs From DJs At A Wedding

  1. Thou shalt not tell the DJ that he HAS to play your request because you’re leaving soon.
  2. Thou shalt not tell the DJ that he HAS to play your request because the bride REALLY loves it.
  3. Thou shalt request songs that you will dance to if the DJ will allow them. However, remember that they are requests and not demands. The DJ has a wide range of people to keep happy.
  4. Thou shalt not put your drink on the table.  That equipment is expensive.  Drinks spill.  It's a bad combination.
  5. Thou shalt not request heavy metal or techno at a wedding. Save that stuff for the clubs.  Brides are the only ones who can ask for that stuff.  Most families leave the floor for that stuff.
  6. Thou shalt not request a song that thou will not dance to. If you won’t dance to it, why should anyone else.
  7. Thou shalt not ask the DJ to play your song again because “you missed it.”
  8. Thou shalt not ask “what songs do you have?” The answer will always be, “a lot of them.”
  9. Thou shalt not ask if the DJ is going to play anything good when the floor is packed. I’m sorry you don’t like it.  You know who does?  All those people on the floor.
  10. Thou shalt not forget whose day it is. This day is for the bride and groom.  Your job is to celebrate with them.  Don’t make it about you.