How To Fall In Love With Anyone
Over 20 years ago, the psychologist Dr. Arthur Aron was able to make two strangers fall in love in his lab. Two years ago, a writer for the New York Times tried to recreate Aron's experiment.
It's a story that's been one of the most read "Modern Love" columns in the Times. And if you're wondering how the experiment went for the writer? Mandy Len Catron and her "test subject" are still in love, and still together. You can follow her journey at her blog The Love Story Project.
So what's the big experiment? Dr. Aron discovered a series of 36 questions, broken down into three sets, "explores whether intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated by having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions," according to the Times. "Each set [of questions] intended to be more probing than the previous one."
You can find the entire list of questions here, but here is a sample of some of these intimate, probing questions.
- Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
- Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
- If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
- If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
- What is your most treasured memory?
- How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
- Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... “
- What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
- If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
The experiment also involves four minutes of staring into your partner's eyes, FYI ;)